WHEN THEY LOVE YOU, YOU’LL KNOW.

PREAMBLE

There are many ways to know that someone loves you, but they may be too afraid to show it.  And some signs, like the one I felt in this poem, are something that can only be gauged by gut feelings.  It’s never a good idea to simply put words into another’s mouth and assume someone is interested in you romantically, however, what I talk about in this poem has always sparked my soul.

 

 

IT’S IN THE WAY THEY LOOK AT YOU

I have heard people say that they can hide their feelings perfectly, but I wouldn’t be too sure about that.  Some signs, like “the look the eyes”, are just as hard to control as bodily reactions.  Blushing is the classic example of one such reaction, not that this alone can indicate romantic interest, though.

While I would never pretentiously assume romantic interest myself, I’ve always felt that there is something special to be said about the way someone looks at you. The feeling you get is different from them just being comfortable around you.  I would not like to be haughty enough to assume, but sometimes, my intuition makes me want to believe what I see.  It’s very rare to see such a delicate and vulnerable part of another person’s soul through their eyes, and when I see it, it moves me.

ABOVE BASELINE

I also feel that even if people say that they can hide it perfectly, they don’t actually hide it as well as they think they do. Because they might do little things that they normally wouldn’t do, or even just do the same things, but with a different energy and feeling behind it, which is even harder to discern if you don’t know what their normal “baseline” is.  Their actions, or the energy behind those actions, will be very subtly different from their baseline towards you, and they may not even realize it themselves.  Of course I could just be romanticizing the whole thing in this love poetry, but I’m very energy-sensitive myself, and this has just been my personal experience.  Again, it’s very easy to miss, and even easier to misinterpret.  

UNCONTROLLABLE REACTIONS

It’s very much like one of those things you have no control over, like bodily reactions, except you have to be very in tune with yourself to recognize it.  Many can’t control their blushing or a racing heart, which may indicate romantic feelings, but these body signals alone are not enough to be able to tell if someone loves you.  Yet, people assume anyway.  The only real way to know is to ask them and hope for an honest response.

I feel that blushing is a big one for where people start to assume someone is into them.  Someone can naturally just be flushed more often than others and it’s normal for their body to be like that, or they could be anxious or embarrassed for many other reasons, tanging from social anxiety to medications, to simply wearing too much clothing, and so much more. But people love to assume anyway, so I wrote this list that covers over 30+ non-romantic reasons for blushing. Give it a read if you’d like to be a part of the solution instead of the problem.

LET THEM ASSUME

And when people do assume, there’s really nothing you can do about it unless you’re in a position to clear things up.  Thus, most of the time, you have to learn to be ok with people not seeing you correctly.  It’s not your fault, but it’s also really not your problem.  And if someone is full of themselves and starts assuming that you like them based on bad reasoning such as this, just let karma bite them in the ass.  

But to end this on a happier note, there’s also people whose baseline is already very loving, too, and it’s not even necessarily the romantic kind, which I described in the poem. You can just feel it around them, it’s so warm.  All in all, it’s very beautiful energy, and it doesn’t have to be romantic.

 

AT YOUR SERVICE.

When I first started writing poems, I never followed any rules. I spaced things out by feeling, like I did for this early piece. And I’ll probably stick to doing things like this, freeform with no rules.  That’s always been what feels best to me.  Let’s save listening to rules for a 9-5 job.  Writing should feel freeing.  

More love poetry to come.  I have so many longform poems to share, and within each is a short story of sorts.  Longer poems give me room to tell a good story, so I am happy to have readers here that have the attention span for it, unlike those who can only read short tweets.  I love the depth I can give my novel’s characters in long poems, such as in the romantic WOMEN ARE FLOWERS poem that you can read here.

 

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